My fight with the big bad "Wolf"

This is just me dealing with lupus, I'm 20yrs old and was diagnosed when i was 16yrs old. So it's been a long and early journey. I'm hoping to meet people going through the same thing so we can talk and get through together. The one thing I've really been trying to work on as of lately is staying POSITIVE. So I've added a Donate button at the bottom of the page because i really need assistance paying off debts medical and educational. Thank you all for visiting my blog! Peace be with you.

Link: fuck yeah sex education: Lupus

Lupus is an autoimmune disorder that affects the skin, joints, kidneys, brain, and other organs. An autoimmune disorder is a when the body’s immune system attacks healthy tissue instead of attacking what it’s supposed to. There are many different symptoms and everyone’s condition is different. Inflammation of various body parts or organs is the main symptom. Some possible symptoms include chest pain, fatigue, fever, general pain or discomfort, hair loss, mouth sores, sensitivity to light, rashes, and swollen lymph nodes. It’s also common for people with lupus to suffer from other chronic illnesses including anxiety and depression. Lupus can cause serious organ damage so it’s important to keep an eye on how you feel and to talk to a doctor if anything changes. Lupus weakens the immune system so many people with lupus have a difficult time keeping healthy. To be diagnosed you’ll a physical and nervous system exam. If you present enough symptoms you’ll get a diagnoses. Treatment depends on your symptoms. They can treat the symptoms but there’s not much they can do for lupus itself. Anti-inflammatory drugs are common. Immune suppressants and corticosteroids are also common. As with most chronic illnesses the main thing is healthy living. Eat right, avoid smoking or drinking, exercise regularly, get enough rest, and as sunlight can trigger a flare protect yourself in the sun. Figure out what causes flares and what your limits are. As they say “respect the flare”, don’t wear yourself out when you’re flaring that’ll make it worse.

As with most medications, the medications used to treat lupus can cause vaginal dryness and a drop in libido. It’s important to talk to your doctor about sexual issues, especially if they could be caused by your medication. You may be able to switch meds. Talk to your partner about your condition and how you’re feeling as well as what you feel up to. When you do what to have sex, use lube even if you think you don’t need it. Spend time just being sensual with your partner. Do things you like doing together that aren’t to taxing on your body. Find new things to do together that doesn’t irritate your lupus. Just cuddling, reading or watching tv or movies together can be great and can set a relaxed mood. Relaxing and enjoying yourself helps with a lot of the symptoms lupus causes. Experiment with different sex acts and positions. Find what works best for you. Focus on foreplay and spend a lot of time just touching each other. Schedule a time for sex so you aren’t rushed or feel anxious. Lupus can definitely make you feel un sexy, as can a lot of chronic illnesses. It’s important to see yourself as a sexual being. Having an illness doesn’t change that. You’re still sexy and deserve a fun sex life! Sometimes your body won’t do what you want it to. That’s okay. A lot of people with chronic illnesses have to reevaluate the way they view things. Don’t focus on the things you can’t do, focus on the things you can. When it comes to sex, it can start to mean something different. You may have to change what you do and how you do it. That doesn’t make what you’re doing not sex, it doesn’t mean your sex life is worse off. It just means it’s different. Prepare for sex, take a pain pill if needed and make sure you take it easy and do everything that usually gives you energy. Know what time of the day works best for you. The main thing is to be honest with your partner about what you want and be able to talk them through what lupus is like for you. Open communication can do wonders.

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